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16. CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS: Chat with Kat - Exploring Adult Attachment Theory in Romantic Relationships

August 12, 2020 Kat Lee Episode 16
16. CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS: Chat with Kat - Exploring Adult Attachment Theory in Romantic Relationships
The Rooted Business Podcast
Chapters
3:14
Intentions of this Session
4:29
This conversation is for you if…
6:39
Recognize when you fall into relationship eddies
7:34
Questions I started asking after I got divorced in 2015
8:49
Examining Childhood is not blaming
13:46
Register for Conscious Relationships 101 to watch the video and download the journaling pages
14:30
Explanation of Brain Wave frequencies
19:04
Childhood experiences have lasting effects on the actions, feelings and emotions as adults
24:21
Peter Shaw’s NLP Metaphor
27:28
Strange Situation Test by Mary Ainsworth + John Bowbly
30:17
Core fundamental question: Do I feel safe?
32:06
How caregivers respond to a child feeling scared is going to shape her action, feelings and attachment style when she grows up
32:29
Trauma is from intensity or repetition
33:25
Scolding and minimizing as a parenting tactic
35:17
Bubblewrapping as a parenting tactic
37:30
Responsive parenting
39:57
Adult Attachment Theory by Cindy Hazan and Philip Shaver
41:06
Overview of Attachment Styles
44:40
We do not fit into boxes
51:07
Attachment Theory is helpful when asking “Why”
53:30
Choosing Higher Self over your Lower Self
56:49
There is shame around asking for help when it comes to Love
58:27
In The Heart Lab, we cover needs, protest behaviours, communication patterns, underlying Belief structures when it comes to Attachment Theory
1:01:49
You are the common denominator in all your relationships
1:03:07
Why just listening to the episode andanswering the journaling questions in your head is not good enough
1:16:28
Attached by Amir Levine
1:17:18
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
1:18:23
Next week we will talk about Conscious Relationships
1:19:32
Join the Heart Lab
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The Rooted Business Podcast
16. CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS: Chat with Kat - Exploring Adult Attachment Theory in Romantic Relationships
Aug 12, 2020 Episode 16
Kat Lee

When I got divorced and decided that I wanted to take radical responsibility for my own patterns, I started asking myself some questions:

  • Why do I feel clingy when my partner wants time/space?
  • Why do I withdraw when I'm feeling vulnerable? 
  • How do I empathize with my partner and better understand their needs while honouring and feeling empowered in my own needs? 

As I started opening up to people about my story, I noticed that everyone I talked to has the same struggles. 

I found the structure to answer these questions in Adult Attachment Theory which is what we will explore today. 


This is what you'll learn in this session:

  • Understand how your childhood experiences have lasting effects on your actions, decisions + emotions as an adult
  • Identify your attachment wound
  • Journal to start excavating what contributed to your Attachment style

Kat HoSoo Lee is a trauma-informed Spiritual Business Mentor and host of The Rooted Business Podcast. She uses the tools of somatic and emotional alchemy to guide soulful entrepreneurs to approach their business as a spiritual practice. This allows them to cultivate businesses that are rooted in conscious values, ethical marketing and purposeful service.

Connect with Kat:



This podcast is made possible with sound production by Andre Lagace.

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When I got divorced and decided that I wanted to take radical responsibility for my own patterns, I started asking myself some questions:

  • Why do I feel clingy when my partner wants time/space?
  • Why do I withdraw when I'm feeling vulnerable? 
  • How do I empathize with my partner and better understand their needs while honouring and feeling empowered in my own needs? 

As I started opening up to people about my story, I noticed that everyone I talked to has the same struggles. 

I found the structure to answer these questions in Adult Attachment Theory which is what we will explore today. 


This is what you'll learn in this session:

  • Understand how your childhood experiences have lasting effects on your actions, decisions + emotions as an adult
  • Identify your attachment wound
  • Journal to start excavating what contributed to your Attachment style

Kat HoSoo Lee is a trauma-informed Spiritual Business Mentor and host of The Rooted Business Podcast. She uses the tools of somatic and emotional alchemy to guide soulful entrepreneurs to approach their business as a spiritual practice. This allows them to cultivate businesses that are rooted in conscious values, ethical marketing and purposeful service.

Connect with Kat:



This podcast is made possible with sound production by Andre Lagace.

3:14
Intentions of this Session
4:29
This conversation is for you if…
6:39
Recognize when you fall into relationship eddies
7:34
Questions I started asking after I got divorced in 2015
8:49
Examining Childhood is not blaming
13:46
14:30
Explanation of Brain Wave frequencies
19:04
Childhood experiences have lasting effects on the actions, feelings and emotions as adults
24:21
27:28
Strange Situation Test by Mary Ainsworth + John Bowbly
30:17
Core fundamental question: Do I feel safe?
32:06
How caregivers respond to a child feeling scared is going to shape her action, feelings and attachment style when she grows up
32:29
Trauma is from intensity or repetition
33:25
Scolding and minimizing as a parenting tactic
35:17
Bubblewrapping as a parenting tactic
37:30
Responsive parenting
39:57
Adult Attachment Theory by Cindy Hazan and Philip Shaver
41:06
Overview of Attachment Styles
44:40
We do not fit into boxes
51:07
Attachment Theory is helpful when asking “Why”
53:30
Choosing Higher Self over your Lower Self
56:49
There is shame around asking for help when it comes to Love
58:27
In The Heart Lab, we cover needs, protest behaviours, communication patterns, underlying Belief structures when it comes to Attachment Theory
1:01:49
You are the common denominator in all your relationships
1:03:07
Why just listening to the episode andanswering the journaling questions in your head is not good enough
1:16:28
Attached by Amir Levine
1:17:18
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
1:18:23
Next week we will talk about Conscious Relationships
1:19:32